Inspiration.
I was sitting with an acquaintance the other day and we were talking about the movie “Precious.” Actually we were talking about Monique’s performance in Precious. And he launched into this whole speech about how Monique didn’t deserve the Oscar because, “if he could imagine another actress in the role, she didn’t do a good job.” I was floored by this comment. Mouth wide open. Floored. But, I went on and asked well who else could you see playing the role? (Because I couldn’t think of anyone else great for that role.) He started to list actresses off and started with Vivica Fox. No disrespect to Ms. Fox, but really?!?! That’s who you start your list off with? Not Angela Basset? Nooo. My mind kind of shut off at this point and I knew he didn’t know what he was talking about and I just let him have his own opinion on the matter.
I think this conversation was so crazy for me because I had the exact opposite reaction to Monique’s performance. Polar opposite. I went to see a screening of the movie before it hit theaters. I remember so vividly sitting on the edge of my seat during Monique’s scenes. Getting so wrapped up in her life, her experience, her journey; I walked out of the theater thinking THAT PERFORMANCE IS WHY I ACT. Her performance was so raw. It touched me. It inspired me. I felt like I had a newly inspired reason to act. To step up my game. When people use to ask me why I want to be an actor, I would reply because I wanted to touch people. Whether it was to make them think or make them smile, I wanted to touch them. I wanted to tell stories. I definitely couldn’t see any other actress playing her part.
Which leads me to the second part of this post. I was sitting in Yoga class yesterday and my teacher started the session off with a story. He spoke about planting tomato seeds so that he could grow his own tomatoes. He went on to explain that often times we are so attached to the outcome or getting the fruit (the tomato) that we don’t enjoy the work. (The work being the planting, the digging of the soil – the process) But, the work is the most important part of the process/journey. It’s imperative that you be in love with that part of it and have no expectations on the outcome, he said. Because honestly, we have no idea what’s going to come from our work. Can’t control that part. Just the work. And I guess I had this AHA MOMENT right there in class. I’ve stopped loving the work part of acting. The fun’s gone. When I get to do it, then I LOVE IT! But, as an actor, i would imagine on all levels, there’s a lot of down time. And so getting to DO IT is the hard part. And at some point for me the business became about other stuff: Putting the right team together (agents, managers); which can be very exhausting, trying to get into this audition room, marketing yourself this way or that way, or finding the right acting class. None of it was inspiring anymore. I wanted to get an audition, book the part, make money, pay my bills and be happy. Ahhh!
I actually forgot completely about why I started doing this. About the inspiration part. I say THANK GOD for Monique’s performance. Or all the other actors/actresses that give honest performances – THANK YOU. Because you truly are an inspiration. Sure, sure you can’t be inspired by EVERYTHING you do. Or EVERY part you take. I’m fully aware of the reasons why people take certain jobs. (Monique did do SOUL PLANE after all…yikes!) And yes, I know there IS a business side to this business that we can’t ignore. In no way am I suggesting that everyone stops giving attention to that part. But, maybe just splitting the difference. Using that inspiration, whatever yours may be, as you base compass for being out here in L.A. For acting. Simply put, my awareness of the situation has begun and I’m on the road to recovery. I use to say that when this all stopped being FUN for me – I’m done. It was a naive statement, but there’s some truth in it. If you’re not having fun anymore, it is time to go home. I’m on a path to fall back in love with acting. So, I can have fun again. I’ll let you know how it goes.
And I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention Paula Patton’s amazing job in Precious too. I’m not familiar with her work, but she was nothing short of brilliant. And as for that acquaintance of mine that didn’t like Monique’s performance, it later came out that he really didn’t like any of her speeches she gave after winning the awards. I think that’s the real reason he didn’t like her performance. Or at least that’s what I’m going with!
Thanks for reading.
Two of my favorite quotes:
“Before a dream is realized, the Soul of the World tests everything that was learned along the way. It does this not because it is evil, but so that we can, in addition to realizing our dreams, master the lessons we’ve learned as we’ve moved toward that dream. THAT’S THE POINT AT WHICH MOST PEOPLE GIVE UP. Every search (dream/goal) begins with beginner’s luck. And every search ends with the victor’s being severly tested.” –Paulo Coelho
“We may not know exactly when our sacrifices are gonna pay off, but we’ve gotta believe they’re going to.”